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Loss of a friend While I was at church yesterday, I received an email saying that my friend Bill Varner had passed away.  Bill loved life and lived to serve people.  He was someone who I looked up to.  Even though my friend Bill is gone, he will never be forgotten.  It will be easy to…
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2018 I’m calling you out!! 2017 was a GREAT year for many different reasons: I had the opportunity to go to Coaching with Excellence with Dan Miller I graduated from Central Christian College of the Bible with my bachelor’s degree in Christian Counseling I started Wrestling with Fatherhood with some great goals in mind I…
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L-O-V-E is spelled T-I-M-E!! Family Time One of the things that men find difficult is to spend quality time with their families. We work night and day to make sure that our families are provided for, sometimes to a fault. Our children do not know who we are, but instead just know us as people…
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Not Uniform with Spouse’s Decision – Mistake #5                As parents, one of the things we want is for our children to like us.  We want to be the cool parent, showing other parents how to do it right.  However, A marriage IS a team sport. As team, both the husband and the wife need…
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Not Firm in decisions Mistake #4 This is an easy mistake that we can make as men. Sometimes it is easy to make decisions based on how we are feeling one minute or the other. As men, we need to make decisions and be firm on whatever we decide.  One of the problems parents have…
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Guilt trips A guilt trip is a feeling of guilt or responsibility, especially an unjustified one induced by someone else. Creating a guilt trip in another person may be considered to be psychological manipulation in the form of punishment for a perceived transgression. Guilt trips are also considered to be a form of passive aggression.…
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Monologue or Lecturing – Mistake #2 As a parent, we want to drive into our child when they do something wrong, they have made a bad decision.  This is part of parenting but we have the choice how to redirect our child.  As parents, our job is to discipline and build up our children so…
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One of the hardest things to not do as a parent is remembering that your children are different from other children. When I was younger, there would be times when I felt like I had to measure up to different people. As father’s, it is our job to build up our own children, realizing that each of our children has a special gift. I have two wonderful daughters, who are both very talented in their own individual ways. One of the worse things that I could do as a father would be to compare them to other children at…

In the next several weeks, we are going to look at some of the different mistakes that parents make. Whether your child was just born, or you have older children, we all make our fair share of mistakes. As men, we HATE to admit our mistakes whether that’s with our marriage or with our children. Making mistakes is how we learn, grow and become better parenting. Without making these mistakes, we cannot grow, learn or become the type of parents that we need to be. Be parent is about more than making the mistakes, it is also about admitting them…

My family and I had a great trip at the zoo! The danger at the zoo is NOT me taking my children to the zoo but instead not taking the time to take them to a place they want to go. For most children, they do not get to spend time with their family by going and learning because most families are too busy. Although the zoo can be a dangerous place, the real danger comes when families refuse to spend time together. A family that spends time together, stays together. Spending time together can be anything from putting a…