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Mistake #2 – Monologue or Lecturing

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Mistake #2 – Monologue or Lecturing

Monologue or Lecturing – Mistake #2

As a parent, we want to drive into our child when they do something wrong, they have made a bad decision.  This is part of parenting but we have the choice how to redirect our child.  As parents, our job is to discipline and build up our children so that they can be a productive member of society.  The thing that we do NOT want is for them to end up hating us, turning their backs and walking in the other direction.  I have had the chance to teach inside of a prison a couple of times.  Most of the people within our prison system are people who either never had parents or had parents that drove them away.

One of the easiest ways to drive children away from the home is Monologue or Lecturing.  According to dictionary.com:

Monologue: a prolonged talk or discourse by a single speaker, especially onedominating or monopolizing a conversation.

Lecturing: to rebuke or reprimand at some length or a speech of warning or reproof as to conduct; a long, tedious reprimand.

This is a horrible way to show your child the attitude I’m big and your small.  Lecturing doesn’t work because by the time you are done lecturing, your child is already moved to other things. There are a lot of parents who enjoy standing up and talking to their child and speak down to them.  This does not do anyone any favors because children do not like to be knocked down.  As a child, you probably had dreams and friends that did not match up to everything that your parents wanted.  As children, we understand that this style of parenting hurts us and makes us feel weak.

Instead

communicate to your child what they did was wrong and move on.  Keep your speech short, always ending with how much you love the child no matter what they just did that disappointed you.  Even as adults, we all make mistakes.  Understand that your child will make several mistakes throughout this journey called life.  As dads, it is our jobs to encourage, lift up, and discipline our children in a way that they know how much we still love them!!

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